Types of Abuse

My partner has never hit me but calls me names; is this abuse?

In Mná Feasa we say “You don’t need a bruise to be abused” this is because most of the women we work with may never experience physical abuse.

Mental, emotional and financial abuses are very hard for anyone outside the relationship to see.

Some Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship:

Does your partner . . . . . .

  • Act extremely jealous
  • Accuse you of cheating
  • Put you down
  • Make you feel bad about yourself
  • Make you feel like a child
  • Not take you seriously or things that matter to you seriously
  • Not listen to you
  • Frequently criticises your friends or family
  • Pressurises you for sex
  • Hurt, humiliate and embarrass you
  • Cheat on you
  • Tell you how to dress
  • Ever grabbed, pushed, hit or physically hurt you
  • Blame others for their behaviour
  • Destroy your possessions
  • Prevent your education or job success
  • Make all the decisions
  • Break promises
  • Control you or act very possessively
  • Withhold affection
  • Use alcohol or drugs as an excuse for bad behaviour

Some Warning Signs of an Abusive On-Line Relationship:

A healthy on-line relationship needs the same ingredients all healthy relationships need; communication, trust and boundaries.

Does your partner . . . . . .

  • Coerce you into sending explicit pictures of yourself
  • Coerce you into sexting with them when you don’t want to
  • Demand your password to your social media accounts
  • Threaten to post or actually post humiliating or private information about you on-line
  • Demand long Skype sessions, so that they can keep tabs on you
  • Look through your phone frequently, checks up on your pictures, texts and outgoing calls
  • Uses technology, such as spyware or a GPS tracking device, on your phone or in your car to track your whereabouts
  • Tells you who you can and cannot be friends with on Facebook and other social media sites
  • Make you feel afraid and anxious about leaving your phone down, in case they try to contact you
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